When I was married, the first time around, I didn't change anything. A piece of paper didn't change me so I didn't change my name. I was proud to be the same person. Proud of me. And I'm happy I made that decision.
The second time I was married it was more complicated. We had a child. I'm a practical person so I decided not to change my last name but to add to it. I didn't want any confusion while my daughter was in school of which child was mine. Haha That was my sole intention... not to have any confusion while my daughter was still a child.
But, I did some research first...
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In Canada, the law states, "Assuming a spouse’s name after marriage does not change the name on your birth certificate. However, you can assume your spouse’s name on government documents." This doesn't change your name, legally.
I believe it's a person's choice what they do with their name. How they feel about it. I don't see how it's anyone else's business but that individual. It really affects nobody else. I don't care what your name is and I would respectfully call you whatever you want me to call you. Because respect is the right thing to do. It's the loving choice.
I have friends who have just switched to their husband's last name on government documents, because they wanted to and some women told me that they didn't know they even had a choice (gasp!! My mother was one of them!). I even have a good friend who changed her entire name (first and middle too) in order to free herself of all negativity of her past (and loves the result!).
I am in full support of anyone who did what made him/her happy!!I love my names because they are mine. They were given to me and have been with me for the past... um... so many years (LOL) and they will be mine until they aren't. I could also love a name that I make up, with special meaning but I will not change my name, legally, for anyone else.
Belanger wasn't always my last name, though.I was born in Germany (no I'm not German.. I had two Canadian parents and remember absolutely nothing of Germany) and they (at that time) had a law that a child takes his/her mother's current last name. No matter what. So I had to wait until my parents got back to Canada to have my name changed legally to my father's last name.
Upon recent reflection I decided to change all my business pages to my maiden name. My business brand is about me after all, not my family. This also makes things easier for people to tag the right page or message me to the intended way.
Others may make a different choice and that's fine with mye, naturally, since it's not my business. My hope is that people know their choices and not just do what feels right for them but also to support others in their choice. Have you heard of another choice that I didn't know about? Please comment below, if you have or connect with me. Many blessings. xx