Wednesday, April 25, 2018

People Making Assumptions (Part 2)

If you missed 'Assumptions Part 1' HERE it is. One of my biggest issues is people judging me for what I do. No matter what I do, there seems to be judgement. Society is so stuck on what we do for a living, or not. It really doesn't tell if we are a good person or not so who cares??

I may have finally make peace with that..

I had to thank my Higher Power for her guidance last night.

I was obsessing about people judging me for being a SAHM but I know what they think is none of my business.  I can't control their prejudices. I can only control ME. Maybe I'm annoyed with myself for relapsing in JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain). For defending my choices. They are not making me feel anything, that's already in there or I wouldn't be caught up in it.

All I need to say is that yes I stay home but I cannot squeeze one more thing into my life without dropping a priority. Period. No JADE. No engagement in their judgement, prejudices or negativity.

What do I do?? I make intentional life choices. 🖤

Thanks for reading. Do you feel unsettled by judgements? If so, I hope this helps.
Be blessed,
Kim xx

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Monday, April 23, 2018

A Meditation Message || March 10/18

I should first start by telling you that I am not new to meditation.  I taught meditation for over 7 years and have been doing it far longer than that.  I also loved it enough get certified in meditation, separate from what I took in my yoga teaching course.

Today, I started out with these mantras, as suggested by Deepak...

I am
So Hum (I am / that)

This is the result of that meditation.  What came to me while in mediation.  I don't think I would consider it to be the voice of God, since we are all God.  These words are just the result of clearing out the unnecessary.

In the order of which they came to me...

We are each a spark of God.  We are God.

Meditation is cleansing.  We are cleansing out what isn't to be more God-like.

Listen.  Our God-ness will tell us.  Tell us what to do.  Where to go.  What to say.  Who to be.

How can we be angry with our neighbour if we know he'she contains the God spark?  That we both do.   Isn't it like being angry with our self?  Maybe we are angry with an idea they have... but we aren't our brain... we are God.  Maybe just take pity that the other person can't see the spark.  That the other person doesn't meditate and cleanse their mind to be able to see their spark.

Meditation is like Spring cleaning.  You are cleaning the corners of your mind to allow your Spirit/True Self/God Spark to shine more brightly.  The brighter the Spark shines the more God-like a person becomes. Let it shine, let it shine.

Eating fruit is cleansing.  Fruit helps a body to shine and connect with the inner Spark.  It connects body, mind and spirit.  Holistic.  Whole-istic. Whole-ism.

Meditation is a muscle to be strengthened. Each time yo try to meditate you make is more possible.  You see clearer.  You are more God-like.  Little by little.

This meditation lasted 40 mins

I feel like I will take this energy and information/inspiration with me throughout the day.  For that I am super grateful.  My hope is that someone will read this and maybe start meditating or even just  not laugh when someone else tells them they meditate.  Maybe encourage stillness in your children.  Recommend meditation to someone else.. your spouse maybe.  Or even just feel a little better about the state of the world.  Knowing someone is meditating somewhere out there.

Be blessed ~ always.  xx

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Sunday, April 22, 2018


Assumptions. I hate them.
This might turn into a bit of a rant (stop reading now if you are not open to it) but I feel it's  necessary for others to see things in a different light and stop doing it if it's something they are currently guilty of.

Kick your assumptions to the curb!! 

The SAHM (stay at home mom) is getting a bad wrap. People are assuming that if that's what another looks like to them that it means they do nothing but wait around for their child(ren) to get home from school before they do anything. This REALLLLLLY ticks me off!!!

Let's use me as an example...

*I actually clean my house.
*Also, I care for a sanctuary of animals  (people seem to forget about the 20+ bodies I care for: feed, brush, clean up after and ... oh ya, spend my attention, energy and time on.)
*Going back to my 1st point.. with 20+ bodies in our home and on our property this means my house is sooooo much harder to keep clean. It means floors daily, amount other things.
*I have interests outside my home and family, like some day maybe making my own money and it takes time to develop these skills.
*Speaking of skills, I like to make my own clothes. I don't buy new clothing, for the most part and I even look for fabric choices to upcycle. This takes time. (And saves us money)
*Then there is spirit time for those who believe they are divinely guided. This needs time to follow.
*And health... I actually take care of mine to the best of my abilities. This also takes time.

My values, in general, take time. Even when I worked full-time I didn't sit around doing nothing when I got home.

I could go on but you get my drift. Just because you label or the person themselves defines themselves as a SAHM it doesn't mean they are lazy, uninteresting, bored, lonely, have the same values and choices you do.

People even assume that I've led a boring life. Nope. I've travelled from Ontario to British Columbia in a car, camping the entire way, with a dog and cat. I've lived in big cities like Ottawa and teeny tiny towns. I've had actual jobs too... from factory work to animal health to administrative.

Speaking of outside the home employment.. just because I say I wish we had more money doesn't mean going out and getting a job is the answer. Or easy for everyone as it might be you. Everything I now do during the day would need to be done on the weekends, taking away my family time completely (can we say divorce?!). And the fact that I would have to travel 25+ km away to work a part-time, minimum wage job means between gas and possibly daycare there would be no money left. And then the animals we chose to have/rescue would get ignored pretty much 24x7. No thanks!!

Please consider stopping with your pigeon-holing, judging, labelling, assumptions or even lumping someone in with you or another SAHM that you know.  It's rather irritating and narrow-minded, really.

End of rant. Thanks to everyone who made it to the end and hugs to anyone feeling the same. 🖤

Be blessed,

Wednesday, April 4, 2018

Guest Post! || Suicide: Warning Signs, Risk Factors, And Prevention by Melissa Howard

I first received an email from Melissa Howard in January, 2018.  She wrote, "...I'm  on a mission to prevent suicide with my website,". Mental health affects likely everyone in one way or another, so I was intrigued. 

I had planned to do a few posts about mental health myself so Melissa's email seemed like perfect timing.  She is writing a book on emotional wellness and fitness and her website,, contains articles on handling suicidal thoughts and recovery from suicide attempts.  Please visit her site if you have been having these thoughts or pass this post along if you think it may help someone.  Or even share on social media.. you never know who it might reach!

Thanks! Kim xx

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Suicide: Warning Signs, Risk Factors, And Prevention

According to the Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention, each day 11 people take their own lives in Canada, while another 210 attempt to do so. People who commit suicide are usually in extreme psychological pain and often feel hopeless, alienated, and like they are a burden on others. However, there is no single cause that takes people to this point. Instead, there are risk factors that move people in this direction, and protective resources that move them away from it.

Warning Signs

A warning sign is an indication that someone is in danger and needs help immediately. The most common warning signs for suicide are thoughts about suicide or wanting to die; talking about suicide; feeling hopeless, trapped, or alienated; feeling like you’re a burden to other people; or being isolated. Some people experience a sudden change in mood from despair to an almost calm peacefulness if they have decided to take their own life and started making plans. Other people may start to get their affairs in order, such as having a will drawn up. If you have experienced any of these, it is important that you talk to a friend, call a crisis line, or speak to your doctor.

Risk Factors

A risk factor is something that makes a suicide attempt more likely, but by itself might not be enough to make someone consider taking their own life. The main risk factors are a history of suicide attempts; mental health issues like depression, anxiety, or eating disorders; and life stressors such as high-stress work, a relationship breakup, high debt levels, or abuse. Substance abuse disorders are another common risk factor because they are often accompanied by self-guilt, alienation, and damage to the parts of the brain that help you think clearly. If you suffer from addiction, you should seek help for this immediately, especially if there has been a recent increase in your substance use.

Protective Resources: Inner

People are less likely to take their own lives if they have certain protective factors in place. Some of these are inner resources, which is to say, coping strategies that come from you. For example, you may learn cognitive behavioral therapy techniques so you can learn to think about your problems in more constructive ways. You may also learn ways to calm yourself down when things become difficult for you, such as breathing exercises, meditation, or yoga. You can also develop an inner strength and hopefulness by exercising regularly, eating healthy food, and taking part in hobbies and activities.

Protective Resources: Outer

An outer resource is a person—or group of people—that can give you support, and it’s the most important protective resource that you can develop. Social support can significantly reduce the likelihood of a suicide attempt. This support could mean friends or family members you trust, a support group, or professional support from therapists, counselors, or your doctor. Not only can talking to people about your problems provide a great relief, social support can also help you deal with any other risk factors you might have (e.g., getting proper treatment if you’re suffering from a mental health problem like depression).

Balance the Scales

Imagine the causes and protective factors for suicide are balanced on a scale. Some people might have several risk factors, but if they have also mastered many coping strategies, are generally healthy, and have supportive people in their lives, they may not consider suicide. However, another person might have only one or two risk factors, but if they are lonely, in poor health, and don’t know any coping strategies, they will be at great risk. Try to balance the scales and build up as many protective resources as you can, and if you do start having thoughts about suicide, get help right away.

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